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We don't pretend to have invented all the secrets ourselves. Our ideas and beliefs have been shaped by many years of reading, traveling, talking to people and making mistakes and living life.

You'll need to read, research, live and discover the things that work best for you.

Here is a bit more on some of them to get you started.

What Elephants can teach us about the power of what we believe

One guy was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a rope tied to their legs. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from the ropes they were tied to but for some reason, they did not. He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.

Well", trainer said, "when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and at the age, its enough to hold them, as they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free." He was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn't, they were stuck right where they were. Their powerful and gigantic creature has limited its present abilities by the limitations of its past.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life holding onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before? how many of us refuse to attempt something new and challenging because of our so called 'mindset'?

Your attempt may fail, but never fail to make an attempt.

CHOOSE not to accept the false boundaries and limitations created by the past.

Found on this blog.

Why it takes 21 Days to form a new habit (or break an old one)

"Dr Maxwell Maltz wrote the bestseller Psycho-Cybernetics. Originally a Plastic Surgeon, Maltz noticed that it took 21 days for amputees to cease feeling phantom sensations in the amputated limb. From further observations he found it took 21 days to create a new habit. Since then the '21 Day Habit Theory' has become an accepted part of self-help programs.

Brain circuits take engrams (memory traces), and produce neuroconnections and neuropathways only if they are bombarded for 21 days in a row. This means that our brain does not accept new data for a change of habit unless it is repeated each day for 21 days (without missing a day)."

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Why Multitasking is stressing us out and focus is the key to efficiency

Are you too busy? Are you always running behind? Is your calendar loaded with more than you can possibly accomplish? Is it driving you crazy? You’re not alone. CrazyBusy–the modern phenomenon of brain overload–is a national epidemic. Without intending it or understanding how it happened, we’ve plunged ourselves into a mad rush of activity, expecting our brains to keep track of more than they comfortably or effectively can. In fact, as Attention Deficit Disorder expert and bestselling author Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., argues in this groundbreaking new book, this brain overload has reached the point where our entire society is suffering from culturally induced ADD.

CrazyBusy is not just a by-product of high-speed, globalized modern life–it has become its defining feature. BlackBerries, cell phones, and e-mail 24/7. Longer work days, escalating demands, and higher expectations at home. It all adds up to a state of constant frenzy that is sapping us of creativity, humanity, mental well-being, and the ability to focus on what truly matters.

To see Ed Hallowell, the Author of "Crazy Busy: Overstretched, Overbooked and About to Snap" explain this, click here. 

The Formula for Success

The winners in life know the rules of the game and have a plan.

Whether you're looking to heal a relationship, get a new job, lose weight or find inner peace, consider these characteristics which Dr. Phil says are common to people who succeed. The same things appear in numerous other lists, books and articles too.

Read the full article here. 

The Ripple Effect of your thoughts on the world

Drop a pebble in a still pond and watch the ripple travel out in an ever expanding ring. The Ripple Effect is rooted in the belief that all we are all connected by our shared Humanity.

Drop a pebble in a still pond and watch the ripple travel out in an ever expanding ring.Two well known Principles of Physics are Wave Theory and Entrainment. Wave Theory teaches us that a wave will continue to travel out, never changing its initial shape or frequency. It also teaches us that when two waves intersect each other, the height of the effect is the sum of the heights of the two individual waves. Entrainment is the tendency for two vibrating bodies to lock into phase so that they vibrate in harmony.

The Pond is the World, Your Heart is the Pebble, Drop a pebble in a still pond and watch the ripple travel out in an ever expanding ring with every Heartbeat.

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Why 3% of people earn TEN TIMES more than the other 97% combined

In the book What They Don't Teach You in the Harvard Business School, Mark McCormack tells a study conducted on students in the 1979 Harvard MBA program. In that year, the students were asked, "Have you set clear, written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them?" Only three percent of the graduates had written goals and plans; 13 percent had goals, but they were not in writing; and a whopping 84 percent had no specific goals at all.

Ten years later, the members of the class were interviewed again, and the findings, while somewhat predictable, were nonetheless astonishing. The 13 percent of the class who had goals were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent who had no goals at all. And what about the three percent who had clear, written goals? They were earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97 percent put together.

In spite of such proof of success, most people don't have clear, measurable, time-bounded goals that they work toward.

Learn more about the importance of goal setting and your success.

Balance is Bogus: Harmony is the answer

"Think of a scale. In perfect balance, nothing's happening. There's no dynamism, no life or vibrancy. Now, think of a jazz band in action—the life and vibrancy are palpable, aren't they? The performers in this band have less to do with playing the melody as written and more to do with improvising. They give life to nuance and the music takes shape in the moment. That's harmony.

I want to encourage you to think of your life like this. When you're in harmony, some days your parenting skills will lead. Other times it'll be your job or your school. On certain occasions your marriage will take center stage. Sometimes you're going to be running on two hours' sleep, having worn the same clothes three days in a row.

It may not be pretty, but that may be just what it takes to finish the business plan that lands you the big dollars and the nourishing rest and relaxation that follows. If you had been in perfect balance, you never would have pulled those crazy hours to begin with, and look at what you'd have missed. So, with my way, you're going to have to get used to the idea that you're never going to be in perfect balance, nor would you want to. Perfect balance is death, death of mind and spirit.

Hopefully I've just lightened your load if you're good at traveling on guilt trips on account of your lack of balance. It's time to get over it. Knowing that nothing dynamic's happening when you're in balance, why would you want to be? Harmony is where it's at; harmony is dynamic and full of life, even if you choose to venture temporarily into choppy seas. While it's true that you can't control the waves, who said you can't learn to surf?"

Read the rest of this great explanation by James Arthur Ray, author of 'Harmonic Wealth - The secret of attracting the life you want'.